aloveofpomegranatesandpeaches asked: Thank-you for this blog. Honestly, thank you so much!! Fetishization of latin women is something I've noticed from the time I was able to comprehend social structures and the way race, financial status, gender etc. played a part in constructing them. I am 18, and only once in my life has a boy I've dated treated me with dignity & respect instead of as a disposable sex object, solely due to the fact I am a woc. Thank you so much for this.
You’re very welcome!
I am more than the way I roll my R’s,
and I go further than my long dark hair.
I am not the escape from your bland life,
and Tapatío does not go on apple pie.
Latin women often play the role of the seductress, like Roselyn Sanchez in Rush Hour II and Marisa Tomei (an Italian-American actress from Brooklyn) in The Perez Family. The seductive, sexy Latinas entice men. This stereotype often crosses into dangerous territory when high school-aged Latinas are showcased with the same promiscuity, such as Naya Rivera’s Santana Lopez or Francia Raisa’s Adrian Lee. Jack Thomas, a writer for Tu Vez, wrote “When white women are prostitutes, they are usually the “hooker with a heart of gold” like in Pretty Woman. When a Latina is a whore, she’s just a slut.” The “La Virgen y La Puta” stereotype is especially idiotic when Hollywood tries to convince its viewers that Latinas happen to be both fiery and uncontrollable while also fitting to be a nanny or maid.
In the second trope we’ll examine, the “La Virgen/the Virgin,” the poor little Latina is trapped in the submissive role of a housekeeper or nanny and is usually rescued by a kind-hearted white man. For an example, look at Jennifer Lopez in Maid in Manhattan or Maria from America’s favorite musical West Side Story. Maria is the innocent yet submissive Puerto Rican girl who is swept off her feet by a charming white man. The story writes itself. Yet, with regards to the “La Puta/the Whore” part of the paradox, do a quick Google search of the words “Latin woman” and you’ll find yourself amidst hundreds of links taking you to kinky, exotic porn or dating sites to find the perfectly enticing Latin woman for you.
Currently Hollywood only has two roles for Latinas: the slut and the maid
Sexy Frida Kahlo Halloween "Inspiration"
I found this online and almost threw up.
14 Things You Should Never Say to a Latina
Not saying we aren’t proud of some of the stereotypes about how insanely sexy we are, how our families are awesome and how we are great dancers, but guys, there’s a limit. Here’s just a short list of our biggest pet peeves.
the worst is guys hitting on you in broken Spanish. I swear I’ve almost spat at guys
Not a bad article, especially for Cosmo….
1 of the highlights:
Your mother must be as gorgeous as Sofia Vergara!
Why do we all have to live up to this standard? Whhhyyyy?
"The mainstream media is ripe with oversexualized images of women of color, and policy often stigmatized and shames this same group of people. Women of color and poor women are blamed for their inability to keep their legs closed and for having too many children. For marginalized groups of women, sex is not linked to pleasure and freedom; it is demonized and used as an example of all the ways in which these women lack self-control. As a result, a lot of conversation around sexual freedom discount the experience of people of color, failing to take into account how much sexual freedom is assumed to hinge on a woman’s privilege—be it because of her race, economic status, or social standing. Of course, not all women of color are sexualized in the same way. For example, while black women are considered lascivious, always consenting and out of control, Latina[s] are considered exotic or overly sensual and Asian women are considered childish and prude. These particular stereotypes are reinforced through popular culture and pornography (just Google respectively “Asian women,” “black women,” or “Latina women” and then “women” and see what comes up). The common thread here is that nonwhite women’s sexuality is seen as outside the norm of white heterosexuality. It’s therefore something to uniquely desired, manipulated, exploited or controlled."
Anonymous asked: People need to understand that there's a huge difference between being attracted to a PoC and being smitten with the prejudices and stereotypes of a certain race.
"I think there’s a big stereotype that Latinas are super-sexy and to me it’s disturbing that that’s the only way they look at us. Very often when we see a show on TV or a movie, we don’t see a lot of Latina characters, and when we do, they’re the really scantily clad Latinas that are going to steal your boyfriends. I think we’re a lot more complex than that, so I think it’s horrible that they’re simplifying us."
Anonymous asked: do you think that white people and people of color shouldn't have children together?
People of color and white folks can have all the fucking kids they want to have together, as long as they don’t view their relationship and the children they have together as the end all be all solution to white supremacy, racism, colonialism, and so on.
Every time I hear the “fighting racism through racial mixing” I ask them to look at say, South American cultures and how well simply mixing races (whether through violent systemic rape, or places by consent) did for ending racism.
(hint: it didn’t)
This is always the thing when it comes to talking about white/POC dating that makes me pissed off in these conversations - when you point out that white supremacy is a terrible place from which to build a relationship and people say, “So you’re against white people and POC dating! RACIST!”
Don’t date people BECAUSE they’re white.
Don’t date people BECAUSE you have a fetish.
Date people because you like each other, and not a fucked up category which makes them effectively replaceable by anyone else in the same category because you have internalized fucked up power dynamics.
Simple, but apparently hard, since… people have internalized fucked up power dynamics.